Creating a Life that Fits You: Customizing Your Motherhood Journey
Motherhood is a journey that is unique to each and every one of us. While there are certain universal experiences that we all share as mothers, the way we navigate this journey can be vastly different. That's why it's important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all approach to motherhood. Instead, we must learn to customize our motherhood journey to fit our individual needs and desires.
One of the first steps in creating a life that fits you is to identify and challenge any limiting beliefs that may be holding you back. For example, many mothers struggle with the belief that they should be able to do it all – be a perfect mother, wife, and employee all at the same time. This can lead to feelings of guilt, frustration and burnout. By recognizing this belief and challenging it, we can begin to set realistic expectations and celebrate small successes.
Another important step in creating a life that fits you is to set boundaries and delegate responsibilities. This can be especially challenging for mothers who feel guilty about not being able to do it all. However, setting boundaries and delegating responsibilities is essential for maintaining balance and taking care of yourself. For example, I know that I can't attend every school function, but I make sure to be present for the ones that truly matter to my children.
Prioritizing self-care is also crucial in creating a life that fits you. This means making time for yourself on a regular basis to do things that nourish and replenish you. This may mean scheduling a yoga class, taking a bubble bath, or simply taking a walk in nature. Whatever it may be, it's important to make sure that you are taking care of yourself so that you can better serve those around you.
Finally, seeking out a supportive community is crucial in creating a life that fits you. This could be a group of mothers who understand the challenges of motherhood and can offer support and encouragement, or it could be a professional coach who can guide you on your journey. Having a supportive community will help you to stay motivated and accountable as you work towards creating a life that fits you.
In conclusion, motherhood is a journey that is unique to each and every one of us. By identifying and challenging limiting beliefs, setting boundaries, prioritizing self-care, and surrounding ourselves with a supportive community, we can create a life that fits us and our families. It's important to remember that our definition of motherhood may evolve and change over time, and that's okay. The key is to be open to self-discovery and realignment as we continue on our journey.
One example of this is a mother I recently worked with, who had always dreamed of being a stay-at-home mom but found herself feeling unfulfilled and burnt out. Through our coaching sessions, she identified that her limiting belief was that she needed to sacrifice her career aspirations to be a good mother. Together, we worked on reframing that belief and setting boundaries for her time. She started prioritizing self-care and sought out a supportive community of working mothers. With these tools, she was able to find a new definition of motherhood that aligned with her values and allowed her to have a fulfilling career and be a great mom.
It's important to remember that there is no one-size-fits-all definition of motherhood. By creating a life that fits us, we can break free from societal expectations and stereotypes, and instead, embrace a motherhood that is authentic to us. Join the More Than Motherhood program for personalized coaching, a supportive community, and ongoing resources and tools to help you continue your journey towards a more fulfilling and balanced life as a mother.